HOW TO GLOW UP MENTALLY
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In this segment It's all about Mindset, How you can broaden your views and perspective in life.
How Can you Glow Up Mentally?
1). Find Out Who You are.
2). Heal Your Inner Child.
3). Set Boundaries.
4).Take Social Media Breaks.
5). Set Boundaries.
6). Go On Solo Dates and Trips.
7). Positive Affirmations.
8). Spend Time alone.
9). Travel.
10). Declutter; Your Space and Your Mind.
11). Listen to Music.
1). Heal your Inner Child (Teen Edition)
Our teenage years was the Beginning of an End…
It was when we started to get an idea of what the world was like, It was when the words of other people started to have an impact on us.
We started to care more about our appearances; the way we looked and the way people looked at us.
Puberty hit and our bodies started to change, we developed our personalities from the movies we watched, the books we read, the environment we lived in and picked up different personality traits from other aspects of society..
As a teenager, for many of us the adults (parents, guardians, etc) in our lives were almost like gods.
Their word was Law.
Questioning them or disagreeing with them often felt like bringing a pillow to a gun fight
Everything seemed so… permanent.
We we’re not really allowed to Express Ourselves the way we wanted to
The piercing we wanted, the parties we wanted to attend, experimenting with our hair, playing with makeup, playing dress up and trying out different looks, those were privileges that were strictly prohibited.
Of course they were the lucky ones whose parents allowed them express themselves but for most of us that wasn’t the case.
And often times we felt so Invalidated, Suppressed and Oppressed.
We were conditioned to act and behave a certain way, which is why for many of us, the minute we left home or went off to college, we became a completely different version of ourselves
Identity Crisis Maybe?
Validate and Acknowledge
Often times I felt like I was living a double life; Imposter syndrome some may call it
I felt like I was doing something so bad and horrible and I was so scared of my parents finding out about the life I lived in college
The older I got the more I realized that I shouldn’t be ashamed for being who I am and the less I cared about what my parents thought
Allow yourself to be you
Don’t let anybody shame you for expressing yourself.
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Reconnect
“you need to know who you are and who you are not or the world will do it for you”
I always wanted that Romanticized Teenage High school life
You know, the kind you saw on TV
The sleepovers, the parties, the high school romance, the road trips with friends…. But I never got that.
Some people had their glory days in high school… not me, lol.
I wasn’t the hot girl or the IT girl
Quite contrary I was the girl nobody really liked
I developed horrible social skills and became a shell of myself
I tried to be what others deemed as acceptable
I wanted people to like me and I had a tragic case of people pleasing
Now, I’m a work in progress
I Try to give myself the experiences I wanted back in high school, in my adulthood
I try to not care and about what other people think
And so far… well like I stated earlier it’s a work in progress
I went many through many different phases and looks in my head, I imagined myself in several different scenarios
I wanted piercings, tattoos, I wanted to play with makeup and change my hair color
But my parents never allowed it
The minute I was sent off to college, I did all those things, excessively even; people often told me I was “doing too much”
But I didn’t care. It felt so good to ‘be in charge of my identity’. I was happy.
I lived and I out-grew that phase
I’m definitely not that girl anymore but she played a major part in my life and I’m grateful I got to experience her.
Be in charge of your identity
Give yourself the chance to live and outlive the different phases you’ve had in your lifetime
Who did you want to be when you were a teenager? BE THAT
Don’t allow adulthood drain of you of your authenticity
Be that person your teenage self wanted to be like; even if it’s just for a fleeting moment…
Give your inner teen a chance to live out her fantasies.
Let Go
After reconnecting and finding my inner teen, still, I didn’t feel quite healed, why? One word; REGRET.
I was holding on to so many ‘what ifs’ and ‘what could haves’
I had to come to terms with the fact that I never made the best use of my teenage years and I didn’t live out my teenage dreams to the fullest.
I had to fully accept it and stop feeling like I wasted the best years of my life
It was hard, and honestly this was the toughest part of my healing journey.
But I had to let go of the REGRET, It was doing nothing for me but holding me back.
Journaling
Journaling is very therapeutic for me
Video diaries, voice recordings or just simply writing, these were the different ways I was able to journal and convey my emotions properly.
Journaling to me was like a Confession
Like I was pouring out my feelings and experiences to the one person who could truly understand the impact these experiences had on my life; ME
And listening/reading my journal entries after a few days, was extremely emotional and therapeutic for me.
Other ways of letting go; Therapy, Meditation, Self Care
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2). Find out who you are
"Be your true and Authentic self, life is too short to be anybody else"
Underneath all the layers of societal conditioning, of your parents telling you what to do, of spending a significant amount of your developmental years of trying to impress your friends, of trying to make other people like you, of all the personality traits you adapted over the years…
Strip yourself down and peel back the layers, Ask yourself who you are when the eyes stop watching and the camera stops rolling.
Become that person, and chase your dreams with reckless abandon
“you need to know who you are and who you are not or the world will do it for you”
3) Travel; Explore the world, Life and Different Mindsets
Staying in one place can be very detrimental. It leaves you stuck in one place. Give your self exposure, Give Your Mind Exposure.
Give yourself the chance to live, to explore different places. be open to trying out new things, the world is too vast and too big to be a one size fits all.
Experience different cultures and see the world from another point of view.
We've put together a little list of the best travel destinations and places you can visit;
i). Japan (tokyo); The world capital of gizmos. Located in east asia and one of the most technologically advanced cities in the world, it's no surprise that japan makes it to the top of our list.
Full of nightlife and amazing temples, Japan is a place far ahead of our time.
Seeing the Tech possibilities this city has to offer is great stimulator for your mind and will help broaden your mindset.
ii). Dubai; One word comes to mind, Luxury. Dubai is one of the most rapidly growing cities world wide, known best for its luxury, beautiful scenery and amazing architecture. Home of the burj khalifa the tallest building in the world, its no surprise why dubai is a tourist attraction worth visiting.
iii). Maldives: Located in asia, with beautiful under water water scenery. It's one of those places you go and marvel at the wonders of Nature.
iv). Paris; the city of love, Fashion and Home of the Eiffel Tower. Located in france with French speaking people is a beautiful destination with beautiful people worth visiting.
There are a lot more cities and countries you can visit around the globe so what are you waiting for?
4). Consider Therapy
I think everybody should consider therapy at some point in their lives. Unfortunately some of us went through more Traumatic Experiences in life than others.
Experiences that would be best healed by seeing a specialist. Please consider therapy and know that you are not alone, Love & Light.
5). Set Boundaries And Stick to Them.
Setting boundaries is essential for self preservation, letting people get away with any and everything is disrespectful to yourself.
Set boundaries for what you can and can not tolerate and stick to them.
Setting boundaries in friend ships, relationships, family and acquaintances is a skill we highly recommend. You teach people how to treat you. Teach them how to treat you with respect, by respecting your self and valuing your self worth.
Here are some healthy ways you can start setting boundaries
i). Know your limit; do not break your back bending backwards in other to please other people, know what you can and can not do for others and learn to draw the line in which you refuse to cross.
ii). Your NO means NO; If you have a strong stance on something or you don't want to do something in general, do not let anybody shame or bully you into doing it.
Be it with your partner. your friends, your family or with any other person at all, if your answer is No, It should be respected.
6). Take social media breaks;
Social media can be A lot. It can be very overwhelming and sometimes even depressing, where do we even start from.
From the toxicity of twitter to the glamour of Instagram to the the sadness of Global and Breaking News, It can honestly for lack of better word be ALOT.
Taking social media breaks, that is if you are an active user of social media is a Non Negotiable, and is very essential in preserving our mental health.
Take some time off the internet and do more things that make you forget about your phone. Live life outside of social media and don't fall into the trap of living For Social Media.
Don't be so hard on your self. Stop comparing your life to the lives of people on the internet. It can be difficult i know, but its truly great for your peace of mind. Understand the law of time and season, every body has their own time to shine.
7). Spend Some Time Alone;
Spending some time alone with your self and Getting to know yourself, outside of who you are when you are around people is a key factor for Self Development.
Spend time alone and learn to enjoy your own company. We often engage in activities that keep us from being alone with our very essence, the distractions can come in form of your phones, tv, people and activity in general.
Meditation can help us keep in touch with our core presence, try spending time without your phone or any distractions and get to know who you are when all the layers are peeled back.
8). Go On Solo Dates and Trips;
Solo Dates Can be very Therapeutic. Don't wait on other people to take you to nice places. Dress up, Get Cute and go grab Ice cream. Take your self out to dinner, Go sit in a bar and grab a drink, learn to enjoy your own company. Who cares if people stare, It's 2022. Stop waiting on other people to do nice things for you and do nice things for yourself.
Treat yourself how you want people to treat you.
9). Speak Daily Positive Affirmations;
"I will be one of the Greatest, that is a vow yeah that is promise..
..Always wanted to be famous just being real yeah just being honest"
Is a song that has been going around in my head in a loop, at first i thought the song was a bit corny, but with time it grew on me and now i recite it every morning, it's almost like a ritual.
Tell your self positive affirmations daily, Speak Positively Into your life. It's 2022 We left all that negative self talk behind in 2021. Speak kindly to yourself and Speak Highly of Yourself.
Don't Down talk your self or Downplay your achievements and success in life. Do not allow society humble you, take up space unapologetically, don't shy away from being seen.
Be proud of who you are and "chase your dreams with reckless abandon".
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